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April 14, 2020

Living Single in Isolation

Living single in isolation can be really scary for many people and it can bring up feelings of sadness, loneliness, and raise to the surface our deeply held fears. With little to do, we can come face to face with our unhealthy habits and our busy minds, which can cause negative self talk, anxiety and overwhelm.

Our lives outside of Coronavirus isolation are generally very busy ones. This busyness of doing, keeps us disconnected from ourselves where we rarely have time to stop, to contemplate, to journal or even connect within.

Many of my single clients have rarely had the opportunity to spend so much time with themselves, as they do now in isolation. When we allow ourselves to be still, what we have pushed away or down within us because we are not ready to look at or face, starts to bubble to the surface to be processed and addressed and this can be painful.

Having the gift of time, can cause us to contemplate the bigger life questions of why am I here? What is my life purpose? Will I ever meet my Soul Mate? And these big questions can lead to overthinking and anxiety, particularly when the answers aren’t free flowing.

If you love yourself and take care of your needs, you will rarely if ever feel lonely. If you know how to fill your own cup and make yourself feel loved and happy, particularly when experiencing feelings of loneliness, those feelings will be only be fleeting moments in time.
We often feel lonely when we expect others to fill our cup and to “make us feel loved.” Remember that no one can make you feel anything. You choose what you feel.

It is important to stay connected to the people who lift your spirits, whether they be your family, friends or work colleagues. There is no shame in calling someone and letting them know how you feel and what you need. Spend more time talking to the people who make you feel loved and less time with those people who rob you of your joy.

Rather than focus on not being able to meet a love interest for some time with social distancing rules in play. Instead focus your attention to writing a list of all the traits you want in your ideal partner, so you know what you are looking to attract when the current restrictions are lifted. Be as specific as you can with your desired traits and always write your list in the positive. As an example, rather than write, I don’t want someone who has a bad temper, instead write, I want someone who is loving, balanced and easy going.

For the bigger questions of why am I here on Earth and what is my purpose? Your purpose will come to you when you focus on something outside of yourself. When you focus on what you can offer the greater good. Think about your innate gifts and talents. What comes easy to you? What make you happy? What are you interested in? What would you love to do even if you weren’t paid to do it? When doing this, get out of your head and drop into your heart, connect to what feels right rather than what you think is right for you.

Most importantly, remember you are never alone in this lifetime because we are all interconnected. We are in this unsettling time and these uncharted waters together and together we will get through this.

If you need support then as a mindset coach, energy intuitive, healer, and meditation teacher, I am here for you in whatever way I can help.

Sonia Motum
Founder and Director, Energy Coaching
Energy Coaching supports women in fulfilling their greatest potential, discovering their true gifts and talents, living their authentic life purpose and being the best possible version of [...]